Our happiness depends on our choices. Who we choose to hang around and why, can very well dictate the quality of your happiness.

For example, in my culture (mexican lol), making fun of each other in a disrespectful way and fueling each others cynical humor is very common and even my own family members tell me that, if I don’t adapt to such “social norms” that I will never be accepted. (I really don’t care to be accepted by those who disrespect and then say, “Just kidding”)

Ethically speaking, having such passive aggressive cynical humor will only lead to making fun of others that are not in your social group. These jokes can also be connected to the development of segregation, racism, and bullying among youth.

Many tell me that they were just kidding and playing around when saying things in a “comical way” but in my opinion is passive aggression; which if that is what you like, you choose to be in that type of group. I just walk away.

I get called uptight and that I need to loosen up by such cynical individuals, and I reflect on what these people who passively disrespect me suggest, and came to this conclusion: if your jokes don’t feed my Soul, and your jokes don’t feed your Soul, I’m not going to spend time with someone that is so miserable with themselves that they have to make fun of me just because they can’t stand how much they can’t be with themselves.

Maybe I’m the cynical one for saying this but… if a joke only feeds your Ego and doesn’t feed your Soul, that joke is similar to drinking alcohol. It’s fun in the moment, but long-term you are poisoning yourself… and those around you.